Understanding Birth Mother Grief

Grief. According to Miriam-Webster’s online dictionary, the word “grief” is defined as “keen mental suffering or distress over affliction or loss; sharp sorrow; painful regret… [W]hat about the loss of a child that is chosen? How does a mother reconcile herself with that complicated spin to her loss?”

“When a birth mom chooses to place a child for adoption, the loss of that child is just as devastating. For birth moms who lived in the era of mandatory closed adoptions, as I did, the separation of mother and baby is just as complete as if the child had died. The difference occurs because much of the time, the birth mom’s grief is not validated or legitimized. In fact, it is often ignored or even forgotten.”

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